Make no mistake about it, there is beauty in your pain.………
The pain of being broken, the pain of being repeatedly abused, the pain of being deceived, the pain of being an outcast, tossed aside like trash…And even quite possibly the worse pain of them all; being abandoned, rejected, and/or abused by your father and/or mother which can sting you to your core. Knowing that two individuals came together to make you and neither felt the need nor had the capacity to stick around either physically or mentally to provide for can cause you to be bitter, broken, and angry.
But I’m here to tell you that despite all those things that seem unbearable that may have caused you to be whomever you are at this moment. It’s not ALL bad and there is beauty that will arise from that pain. How do I know you ask? Well hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, let’s see you are reading this blog aren’t you????? That in itself says you are willing and able to seek knowledge and wisdom in order to elevate yourself on some level. That takes something I like to call HOPE!
[Isaiah 61:3 NKJV] 3 To console those who mourn in Zion, To give them beauty for ashes, The oil of joy for mourning, The garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; That they may be called trees of righteousness, The planting of the LORD, that He may be glorified.”
I also know firsthand what it’s like to have a very traumatic past and look at me now I’m just as beautiful inside as I am outward. LOL. But for real though, a lot of us spend so much time on our outer appearance that we fail to see we are slowly dying inside. When I made a decision to start the healing process to rid myself of those toxic feelings that trauma can leave, my smile became brighter and more genuine. I laughed more because I had a reason to enjoy living.
Here are a few processes that helped me get through certain levels of trauma and start seeing the beauty in it all through the lens of healing:
First of all acknowledge whatever may have happened as not being your fault, forgive and let live.
STOP reminiscing or reliving the past- move forward in the present moment and start living and going after what you desire and deserve (and trust me YOU DESERVE the BEST).
Though some of your pain may not have been physical (if that’s the case), you still need to heal properly and seek professional help when necessary (NO SHAME in Allowing someone to assist you when needed)
Pause when you need to …enjoy quiet moments alone with yourself, with endless amounts of laughter, love, and crying to cleanse your soul.
And last but not least…………. LOVE YOURSELF and Remember there IS beauty in your pain and that BEAUTY IS YOU!!!!!!