I woke up today with the realization that “home IS where the family is” and A Family makes up the home! But lets face it in most homes today there is bit of dysfunction and chaos, that can oftentimes make being at home a bit unsettling. So I decided to take a indepth and personal look at my own life to really connect to that feeling of home. And the first thing I noticed is that as a family unit we are too quick to judge and even slower to forgive.
Why is that ? Well I believe we hold family at a higher standard than the rest of the world and we don’t expect for them to do or say things to hurt us. But here’s the problem in that thinking, though we are family WE ARE STILL HUMAN, and ALL humans are flawed by default. So to expect a sense of perfection is a big misconception leading to the initial feelings of rejection and disappointment to settle in.
Now don’t get me wrong, there is a moral code of conduct that should be adhere to, but is often overlooked during rash moments of emotions, take for example in the bible; the story of Cain and Abel (Genesis 4) where one brother slain the other for reason truly only known to him. Therefore we can deduct that hurt, betrayal, disappointment and injustice has been around for many centuries. But at what point do we say enough is enough and start making conscious decisions to change the trajectory of a family’s story from bitter to sweet.
Well first it starts with each individual’s acknowledgment of Self; looking within themselves to understanding that they are flawed and being ok with that. Then starting to look at each family member through the lenses of love, that true unconditional Love! Why do I suggest first looking to yourself as flawed, because oftentimes we are so caught up in what someone else did wrong, that we don’t realize we too have that same capacity to hurt others. Acknowledging and accepting your
flaws will humble you to be able to hopefully see past others mistakes and mishaps and see into the heart and core of who they really are!
Start today looking at each member in your family as someone who just needs to be loved and not judged . Love them through their pain, hurt and disappointments and soon you will find you own heart will start to soften and heal.
1 Peter 4:8New International Version (NIV)
8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.