Toxic Independence: The Strong Person Syndrome

Hey Y’all Hey

It’s been a minute since I shared my “Rebel Truths” with you. I have been working on a few things in my businesses and ministry that I can not wait to share when finalized. If I am to be completely honest, this has been a long time coming, but I had been getting in my own way by not asking or seeking help to build out my visions greater. I don’t know how many of you can relate, but I had a really bad habit of not asking for help even when I really needed it. I had a warped sense of needing to appear strong, even at the cost of losing it! I found myself trying to take on too many projects and “chasing the bag” without getting any of the results I had hoped for. I finally sat myself down and had a genuine come to Jesus moment and yelled…”I NEED HELP”! Let me tell you, God has helped me to restructure my businesses and hire the help I need to build out every entity, so that not only will it be successful but will thrive effortlessly. GLORY TO GOD!!!

Let’s get back to the teaching moment that I want to break down and share with you. Here is what I learned and I want to share it with you, so that you don’t have to learn the hard way as I did.

If you have been following me on any of my social media platforms, you may notice a pattern: I love to break down word definitions to get a better understanding. So let’s go a little deeper to understand what exactly is: “Toxic Independence: The Strong Person Syndrome”. (Disclaimer: This is not an official syndrome, it is more of my Rebel Truth perspective). MAKE SURE TO READ ALL THE WAY TO THE END!

  1. Strong (definition) 1.) having the power to move heavy weights or perform other physically demanding tasks        2.) able to perform a specified action well and powerfully.

Similar Words: forceful, severe, strict, drastic, extreme

  1. Independence (definition) the fact or state of being independent

  2. Independent (definition) 1.) free from outside control; not depending on another’s authority 2.)not depending on another for livelihood

Similar Words: self-sufficient, self-supporting, self-sustaining, self-reliant, self-standing, self-contained, self-made (Sidebar: NO ONE is self-made, everyone has had some type of help along the way)

  1. Toxic (definition) poisonous, very harmful

When does being strong and independent become toxic?

When the focus becomes ALL about self!!!!

*Don’t be so independent that you lose sight of the need for God’s guidance and the amazing people in your life

*Signs of The Strong Person Syndrome:

  1. Prideful: Not wanting or asking for help when needed

  2. The “I can do it myself” mindset

  3. Thinking & Saying: “I don’t need anyone”

  4. Resentment: “No one has ever been there for me*